ARE YOU DROPPING THE BALL?
What we didn’t anticipate was the deep, personal, intimate and vulnerable conversation that took place as we shared experiences around life’s curve balls.
The women who attended shared that curveballs feel more like brick walls, potholes, being shot at from behind. They shared that they produced fear, anxiety, dread, disappointment, intense resentment and bitterness towards the people they loved most.
As we debriefed later that evening, Billy and I unpacked what was shared and asked, "Why? Why does it hurt SO much? Why are these balls so hard to catch? Why does it always feel like we are failing while we’re being pounded by curveballs?"
Here is what we realized:
On a normal day, most solo-mompreneurs are already drowning. We live in a state of perpetual dread because one curveball and push us under.
And WHY are so many of us drowning to begin with?
1. We are overloaded with “priorities”
The truth is that the burden of solo-mompreneurship is probably very inhumane.
We are setting ourselves up for failure because we are starving ourselves of the raw ingredients needed for that kind of capacity and flourishing. We are starved of support and connection.
If you can resonate with ANY of this, know that no matter how lonely you feel, you are not actually alone in your struggle. In that way we are actually all in this together and we can start by doing a better job of talking about it.
If you could do with some cathartic conversation, and if you think you need some of those pivot plan tools I mentioned earlier - click here to download the replay of that webinar. You’ll be so glad you did.
Are you drowning?
The experience was born from a hunch. A hunch that other solo-mompreneurs were tired, overwhelmed and reaching breaking point - and that any sudden, unexpected change that was outside of their control would derail them and the progress they were working so hard for in their businesses.
We were spot on.
We had no idea how bad it actually is.
We had no idea how pervasive this problem actually is.
How deep it runs.
We had no idea how close many of our friends and colleagues were to their breaking points.
As Billy said last night: “One thing became crystal clear; we, as mothers, women & business people, are needing a village around US (not just our kids!) to support us through the unexpected & help us have courage to pivot when needed...For too long, we have been expected to “do it all”… and usually alone, or at least feeling alone, in our struggles.”
We’re pivoting with the feedback we received, with the pain we bore witness to last night.
It was a very delicious taster of what’s to come.
Additionally, when they're too long - it becomes a "can't see the wood for the trees situation".
Some people like to just start at the top and work their way down - thats a great strategy if you just want to do SOMETHING but, its not an efficient strategy and it does not guarantee that you will get to the end of your day feeling any less stressed or satisfied about how you spent your time if all you have done is distract or exhaust yourself doing things that aren't really important.
or asked differently:
Additionally, wasting it on priorities that aren't really ours or spending energy dealing with bitterness and resentment because we have allowed other people to dictate to us how we use it isn't worth it.